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The Dating-ish Episode
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07/12/2009
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I have a lot of catching up to do on my episodes! I think I need to talk about the dating episode first. It's very hard to think about my Dad moving on from my mom, I need to be mature about it. I want him happy, he's still young and he is full of life. It would be harder for me to see my dad go through the rest of his life with a broken heart. My dad was married to my mom for 37 years. They got together when my dad got back from Vietnam, he was 21 my mom 17, they were soul mates. My mom was best friends with my dad's sister, that's how they met. They really loved each other and had a great marriage. I saw a different side of my dad when my mom was diagnosed with cancer. My family was dealing with something we had never dealt with before, it was devastating. My dad really took care of my mom and I saw the meaning of "in sickness and in health". I know it's so difficult for my dad to have my mom gone, but I know she would want him to move forward...with that said, he felt maybe he should start dating which he hasn't done in about 40yrs! Some people assumed that I'm setting him up, not the case! That would be a little odd if I did..His dates went well, the speed dating I think he actually liked even though he didn't meet anyone. The woman he brought to dinner he isn't dating anymore although she was lovely, they just didn't click. My sister had a really hard time at our dinner. She almost left which I supported if she was that upset, but she decided to stay and I'm happy she did. Ray was my backup date. He is more than my trainer (we've known each other 15yrs) he is a very dear friend to me. He's a great guy but we're just very close friends and we'll always be there for each other. My dating is...well you saw some of the dates! There was a lot you didn't see that they cut...the date that was nervous he did quite a few shots which I don't have a problem if someone wants to enjoy a cocktail or 2 but 10 is a bit much...there were some there things as well that you didn't get to see..the guy that was looking in the mirror was nice but definitely liked himself more than me, again a lot of the date was cut for time...my friends love to set me up, and in their defense, sometimes people are different in a work environment or with friends than they are on a date or in a relationship. I have a very full life, I'm in a great place after a few challenging years. I have great friends, a close family, I'm working, and my daughters are the light of my life. I would love to get remarried someday. Although I'm not actively trying to find a husband. I don't ever want to go through another divorce again. So I am definitely taking my time. I go on dates now, but my priority is my girls and I don't bring anyone around them, it wouldn't be good for them to see mom with different men. So being a single parent, dating I find a bit challenging..I'm sure some of you relate?? I'm still trying to balance it all.
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